There’s been a recent disturbance in the force around these parts with kiddos…more so than the usual. It’s no secret there is nothing for them to do up here. So, they are going to make up their own shenanigan’s and be in pretend-o world of being a big bad wolf or aim for other like goals.
With that said, just the other day there were back-to-back complaints with a few of the kiddos in the lowers. Now, the second complaint had me shaking my head. What was it about? Pot. $10.00, one bowl of pot that sent two kiddos into a rage where by two bongs got smashed up at 4:30 in the morning. First. I’ve never heard of a kid being awake at 4:30 in the morning. Hell yeah, go get a job. Second. That’s some dedication knowing the pot. Third. Okay I have to address this. Fuggggg..
Raise of hands. How many would just issue paperwork? Judge the parent, as in being absent and there by elevate the situation without realizing it was being elevated?
Recognize earlier I was finding the humor and gratitude. Why? Well, universe will always put us right where we need to be information, perspective, and more. Happens to me all the time, all…the…time, as I’m sure it does to you. (?)
The parent ran into me at the second job. I just let her speak about her current situation, how she was feeling, and vent a little. I could tell she was tired with no thrust left in the thrusters. Being a single mom, that’s going to happen. I don’t recall the exact way I was able to inject the hey, I get it but you need to know and you need to know the paperwork will be coming if fore mentioned situation doesn’t get resolved. And that did it. She was crying and thanked me for my patients.
Come to find out, that was a fear she was having about her kiddos since she has been leaving early for work and of course working all day out of the area. She knows they are old enough to be at home without a babysitter, but knows too eyes and more are needed. I could tell the game plan was being worked out, and then vocalized.
The best lesson I ever learned and obviously will continue to use, “…to listen, to love, and to hold space for in-lightenment…”. Every parent I’ve had the pleasure of speaking with up here wants better for their kid/s; it’s the how that’s stumping them. (Imagine when those paradigms fully break for the parents. They already know fear and ruling isn’t working.)
And it’s like I heard my mom say to one of my friends freakn’ years ago, “your parents didn’t hold you for the first time thinking ‘oh my little criminal’. No, they are imagining your future self as a doctor or something and being happy.” Hell, I even looked at my mom in a new light after that. Come on now.
There really is no way to wrap this up. I just wanted to acknowledge, to all parents, you are doing the best you can with what you’ve got, and thanks for not giving up. With that, have a most excellent day!